The Follow-Unfollow Trend!

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Okayyyy!! So here I am today to talk to y’all about something which I think we should really talk about.

It’s very much evident from the title of the post what this something is. So I’ll just share a few pointers.

1st thing’s 1st. We’re all creative minds out here. Agree?

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Someone is passionate about sports, some about poetry, others about the current news, social issues etc. Everyone has different interests. But, the whole intention is the same – ‘Reaching the masses.’ And so we all are here sharing what we best know.

So why on earth is it so difficult for some people to accept this that if your interest lies in sports doesn’t mean everyone else too might also want to read about sports.

You might be a great sports writer but, maybe for someone, it doesn’t make sense coz they have zero interest in sports and they don’t find it right to follow you just for the sake of it.

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But, you on the other hand followed them who writes about food but you just did that coz you wanted a follow back. Do you think that’s right?

You like their every post, comment on it and wait for a follow back. Once you get that, you unfollow or if you don’t get the follow back from them for a long time, you then you decide to unfollow.

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There are also some superstars who follow you as soon as you follow them and then leave in a few days. Coz nobody would know, what I did.. Hahahaha….

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Are you really an artist? I use the word artist coz writing is an art in itself. You love sports, cooking whatever, for me everything is an art you put your heart into.

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If everyone of us start doing the same thing, do you know where this would lead to? Nobody knowing what exactly you do. Your skill would have zero real appreciation.

Just think, you put all your hardwork, draft a piece and publish it and this is what you get in return. Won’t that be sad?

So please, stop stooping down so low for increasing the number of followers you got. What’s the point of having a huge followers list with zero interaction with your readers and no appreciation for your work?

What’s the point in getting an Oscar when nobody even came to watch your movie? ( Just an example, now please stop dreaming about an Oscar when the theater was empty. Coz that’s not gonna happen at all.🤷)

Followers 500 but, likes on the post only ten and zero comments. Won’t that be really heartbreaking? I would really feel bad. And I’m sure all of you would too. Even if someone shares copied content, it still hurts, right? Coz it’s still work to copy the content from somewhere and paste it to another platform.

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Also, please understand that not all are all the time available.

Understand! Someone is a mother of two, someone a student, a working individual, a single father. We all have our set of duties and commitments. And Blogging is one of them. So please please please, be patient.

Probably you’re an awesome Blogger but, the opposite person might not have the time to visit your blog for maybe months. Not coz they don’t want to but, they’re just waiting to get enough time to go through your posts and decide whether it’s worth a follow and if that content interests them or not. Maybe they liked what you write but, they cannot connect to what you cater to. And they decided not to follow you.

Thank these people coz they’re being true to themselves and to you. They’re not showering you with false praises.

Most of you may know that me and Aye-Ch as I call her (H.R. Phoenix) interact with each other most of the times. But, do you know that I followed her on 30th April whereas she followed me on 14th May.

I was just excited to follow an Author and so I did. I don’t know why she followed me later on but, she did and here we are today!❤️

LMAO!🤣 That makes me realize it’s just been a month that she followed me and damn! It felt like ages!😇

I have many people with whom I still have to interact with. Why I didn’t, coz I am having a hard time managing my time. But, there are people who recently followed me, commented on my posts. We then had a small chat for days and then checked the Blogs.

There are a few who comment but, I don’t even know them yet and haven’t yet followed them coz I didn’t get enough time to visit their blog. When I say visit, I mean, to read it.

So don’t hesitant to open-up to people even when they don’t. If you got that time, do it. Someone may not have enough time to read a whole blog but, as soon as you comment they will get a notification and will definitely reply to you sooner or later. That’s the easiest way to connect.

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And yeah…. Also, some might just follow you coz they feel bad that you’re following them and always there but, they haven’t yet got the time to check your blog. So then they follow and read the moment they get the time. Also possible that they may never coz they’re just returning the favour. Yeah, that too happens.

And most importantly, please don’t use this platform like Instagram. Coz it’s not and definitely not even close enough.

We aren’t Memers or run a random page on a social media account. We hold a much more respectable place. So be proud of that!

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Change how you use this Blogging platform. Connect with people for real. Stop this right away before you ruin this beautiful place. I don’t know about you but, I will definitely not want to keep my mouth shut until this becomes a huge mess.

Let’s have some genuine contacts and readers than playing this game. I am really nobody to stop anyone coz I do not own WP but, I am telling this coz most of us are really wanting to connect and at the same time show what they got by playing zero Insta games.

Save this lovely community before it’s too late.

WP is my virtual home and I can’t see this turning into a ‘Who’s got how many?’ competition. Let’s keep it to ‘Who’s got what?’ only.

Show us,
What you got?
& Not
Show us how many you got!

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Thank you for your time.😊
The Bold Girl💋

Published by The Bold Girl

A Poet, A Storyteller, A Dreamer.

176 Thoughts

  1. Thank you Bold Girl for writing this. Honestly, so many people follow you just because they want a follow back. That’s so wrong! And like you said, this platform is not Instagram, it’s a platform to show your talent, and connect with people. What you have written is absolutely true, and the way you have written is also very effective. I really hope people stop this “Follow-Unfollow Trend”.

    Just a question – Should I call you Bold Girl or by some other name?

    Ishita❤

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    1. Thank youuu, Ishita!😊 I am just seeing a trend by a few. Very few though. But, that’s still wrong. I too have followed a few as soon as I had an overview of their blogs when they followed me.

      I think, its easier that way to read their new blogs as soon as I get a notification and connect that way.

      But, following someone just coz you need a follow back and then want to unfollow is too wrong.

      And yeah, you can call me whatever you want to.😁😁

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  3. Thank you so much for this post. This is what people need to see!! Well, I can tell u, I didn’t follow u for a follow back, I followed u cause I actually enjoy your posts and ur blog!! And I think we should understand that people need a little time to see if they want to follow someone!!

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    1. Hehehe… There’s no need for you to give justifications. That’s okay. I’ll suggest you to read the poetry, “The One I Loved”. That’s one reason for me being this slow and ofcourse work.😐

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  4. Righty said, can understand, when I follow someone I make sure, I read their posts too in between
    And never expect anyone to follow me back if I am following them, if they like my work they can, if not then, its their wish

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          1. Me too, there are many pentending 😅😅😅
            Few from people who actually come and also give reviews on what I write
            But from few from who I don’t think, would I read any 😅😅😅, and I don’t know why they nominated me

            Oh, yes, I nominated you too, but I genuinely want to give it to you

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            1. I know, you genuinely wanted to. What I’m saying is, I don’t know when to write.😂😂 I’m going crazy. I thought I would soon get time but, no, it doesn’t seem possible any time soon.😐

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                    2. No no, actually I was busy somewhere and thinking something else, studies 😅😅 that’s why the normal problem with me sometimes 😊😊

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  5. This is just a stupid and petty act, which should be halted immediately. Seriously guys, this ain’t Instagram! It’s one of the most annoying trends, next to like bots (which is 100 times annoying).

    I enjoyed reading this post, because you’ve managed to address this issue quite effectively.

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                    2. Whoops, my bad then. 😅😅

                      (Actually, I do get your jokes; but then I overlook a few of them like an idiot…. that’s how it gets awkward 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏽‍♀️)

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  6. I’m fairly new to blogging, but this is so true, it is literally exactly what happens on Instagram, it is quite sad. Actually loved reading this though, I think it’s something a lot of people are aware of, but have never really thought about, including me, but reading this changed that xx

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  7. Wow! You really bring up what we really don’t talk about in this community, and I’m glad you do. This is seriously not right and I hate it when people just like multiple of your posts , once they follow you, without even reading them. I mean seriously? Don’t like them, if you can’t put in the effort to read them. I seriously can’t do that. Thank god, you wrote this post addressing the issue of following and unfollowing just for the sake of it. People need to be real here.

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  9. This things suck. I understand people wanting attention but this is the wrong way to get it. I have also encountered such people. Hope they understand this ain’t social media where you die for likes and comments and followers. This is something better and beautiful.

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                    38. Hahahaha…. People say and I know it to though, that I’m too transparent.😬😬 You’ll know it, you know. I be open in what I feel.

                      If that’s the case, nobody may know whether I’m sad or crying while writing my funny award posts. Isn’t it?

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                    39. We’ll see that. But there’s a difference between the real world and this virtual world. I can tell how are you feeling by looking at your face in real world, but here it’s not possible. Here we show to others what we want to show.

                      Absolutely. One cannot be sure about that.

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                2. Liking comments is okay, I feel. Probably when one reads and likes a comment, they do like. Now, not not sure many actually read.😂

                  I read comments though and don’t hesitate in giving a like if it’s worth a like.

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                  1. I’ll explain this with an example.

                    5 different bloggers. 5 different posts. I comment on all the posts. Now some person likes my comments on all the posts.
                    What will you say about this?
                    And my comments are nothing special. They are just praising the work.

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                    1. Hehehe… I can’t talk about others. With me if I see my people commenting on common friend’s posts, I usually like after reading. Like I feel home. As in, my people supporting each other, sort of feeling.

                      For eg: If it’s you commenting on Era’s post, I would hit on the like button coz I talk to both of y’all.

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                    2. That’s another thing. But the person who likes my comments, I don’t know them. I don’t follow their blogs, they don’t follow mine. There’s no mutual.

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                    3. That’s what I said, I can’t comment for others, right.😅 You ask that person directly, ‘What did you like in my comment that you hit the like button?’ and see what they respond.

                      They probably won’t even answer. Damn! I can’t stop laughing imagining this rn.🤣😂

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  11. Incidentally, just today I saw some faces in new followers notifications and I clearly remember them following me just last week 🧐

    I get it that people want attention, they want more people to read their stuff and appreciate… But I really get irritated when I see someone just hitting like to multiple posts within few seconds, I mean you have clearly not read anything why you’re making my stat look better for nothing 😅
    Even knowing all this, I give them what they want.. If I have time I go through their blog and if think they are good or at least have potential, I’ll follow them back. (As a guy of varied interests and curious mind I don’t usually find anything that is just-not-for-me except beauty/lifestyle blogs 😅)

    Here is a confession, I prefer reading posts from my favourite ‘tags’ than reading blog posts on my feed (mainly because I guess being too sympathetic, I have followed back too many people)

    I know there was a time when my writing was shitty (I’m still learning), so, I tend to give a like/follow to appreciate the efforts. And while typing this comment, I’m realising that maybe this a wrong approach to deal with attention-seeking peep.

    And let’s not even talk about Instagram. Even though I was hardly following anyone there, I have so much to talk about Instagram and writers/poet community there… I’ll keep that for some other time. 😂

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  12. Very well said 👍👍👍
    I’ve got food people following then unfollowing me – like, can’t they read the title of my blog 😂😭
    Aw, I feel like I’m mentioned in every post, I’ll tell you one thing, you’re going to start to be mentioned in my posts!!!!!!!!!! 😉😉😉

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  13. This is one thing that can be frustrating to upcoming bloggers and new beginners. Some of those ( like myself) just want someone to read there blogging experiences. It shouldn’t matter about who follow who. I have 8 people following me and I’ve had my blog for a few months now. I get so excited if I have one person looking at my blog because it let’s me know someone is watching me write. Such a blessing in my eyes. Love the thread!

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    1. Thanks for the read.😊

      It definitely is frustrating whether a new or old Blogger. We’re here coz we want people to read our content. If nobody reads, what’s the point in being here!

      Thanks for sharing your views. Have a nice day!😊😊

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  14. I recently started blogging but I have no views, so I was literally just going to do this and try to follow people to get more views, but this is the first other blog I read. I’m taking this as a sign to not go about getting more views by doing this lmao

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  15. Form over substance for some, but we appreciate the quality of your content and the experience you provide, not the games of perceived popularity. Thank you for your awesomeness.

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